Learning From the pattern of Children in Japan

In a shopping arcade hits in the central city of Kyoto, while enjoying a glass of cappuccino while observing people shopping, I suddenly be done and imposed a voice loud weeping children. Apparently there is a small girl is 4 annual stumble and fall. Lututnya bleeding. We wonder when his mother to see the response that only a crane standing hand in the direction of the small girl with no willingness to immediately reach the child. Long enough. Some scenes took place minutes. The mother remained steadfast and unyielding resolve to wait for their children's own sense of shock and pain. After several minutes passed, finally the little girl began to try to stand again, and with the help of small hands of his mother, he stood back. Still sob while he runs again.


In a comparative study conducted by Heine, Takata and Lehman in 2000 involving respondents from the Japanese students and students of Canada stated that the Japanese students are not concerned with more intelligence than the people of Canada. This is because the Japanese people appreciate the achievement is based more on business than on hard intelligence capabilities. This means, for the Japanese willingness to suffer and strive to become a more important than basic human capabilities such as intelligence.

In Carey, easily we can see them running in earlier fear of losing a lot of time, discipline and hard work. Competitive atmosphere and willingness to become better (the best) is very prominent. This study also found that Japanese people have a culture of self-criticism that high, they always look for what is still lacking in himself. For then they will immediately improve themselves.

Another Indonesian, currently trapped in the common error in which the end result to be everything. The end result is appreciated more than the hardware business. Just look at the competition that occurred from age children to primary school level higher scores for graduation rates. Teachers, parents and the general public always pressing to get children the value of graduation rates, so that they permited all the way. We read in the newspapers the police arrest the teachers because of foul applicable in the national exam, while in other places parents buy the test questions, students cheat and others.

The pattern of this, in turn, would have a role in the formation of the character development of children in the next. Therefore, the opportunity to give the broadest in the children to develop all its potential is one of the basic principles of a pattern of very good character for the formation of children. Parents, assistants, or more adults who do not take over the responsibility of children.

For example, give children the opportunity to learn eat properly with their own hands since he was able to hold a spoon. Do not be taken as the only reason will make dirty. Or give children the opportunity to the world of school the first time without much intervention from the nurse and parents. To provide a sense of security is important to the child if given at the right time. But during waiting children learn in school is a sense of security that is not necessary. This moment is the moment important for children to learn about the world outside the home without the direct assistance of people in surrounding areas.

Experience children feel able to face problems with their ability to grow will own confidence. Therefore, parents should limit itself only to become a partner in discussions to help children find a variety of possible solutions. Parents sometimes need to be firm hearts to let children experience pain, suffering, and feeling oppressed in the content and the portion of the right, because it will be very good for the mental development of children.

Children will grow to be ready to face the personal challenges of life and not surrender easily. Children are not appreciated from the results but the process of struggle. Children should be learning (and parents also need to learn) to enjoy and appreciate the process, although the process is often not comfortable.