Why could the Marriage be Very Short?

"Miracle, yesterday the news that they had married on a large scale, and already the divorce," commented as a friend when seeing the news of the divorce of an artist in infotainment. Comments as it several years later, often be heard.

It is not surprising that stereotipe emerged after the artist was the same as was married separated. Increasingly by the age of marriage seems increasingly less so. What not married one year, pursuing mutual divorces.

Obviously, this phenomenon also occurred in and around us. What was the cause of short marriage? And why the woman is now more courageous decided to be separated? Shortly factor which has become the cause of marriage between short, according to Adriana Ginanjar, the psychologist at the University of Indonesia, including:

-- Too many do not know.

A really that is short could be the cause. They did not know each other in more surprised-as surprised that the weakness of its couple opened after the wedding reception.

-- The subject of a single issue.

They do pay attention to the couple for a question and not to see again the other thing. The example, as the couple that attention. He did not know that, apart from the attention they needed accountability, assessment, and others to develop a marriage.

-- The problem of funding.

The money is the delicate problem as being linked to power and self-esteem, this problem often triggered divorce. Also it has been mixed in the family household problem.

-- The third person.

For some people, when the marriage has been sullied by the third person, there is no other road that must be followed except divorce.

DIVORCE? WHO fear!

According to Adriana, the phenomenon of increasing the number of women took the courageous decision to divorce, in recent times because of the woman worked for many now feel prepared economically. Over the past ten years, women think a thousand times to be separated. Many who have been thinking about, the question of children in the social environment.

"Maybe if true be regarded as the person is more individualistic. Plus given the interest itself. Marriage underway and no longer considered the status or obtained the sense of security, but the pursuit of happiness", revealed Adriana. He also added, most women want now that marriage is able to bring happiness in a short period of time. The person is now more eager and determined undergone marriage so that when the feeling unhappy in marriage, they have found it easy to decide to separate.

Their reason is also separated rapid very interesting, which is still young and the child is still small. Previously, the person who will be separated usually wait for her children to be large enough or he considered to be ready to accept divorce. Now, more and faster maybe even is increasingly seen as good. If being discovered do not agree why must be waiting 5-10 years older? So they thought. It is becoming smaller than the child's age is increasingly good because he does not yet know anything and it will be easy to adapt to the new father in the wake of his marriage.

Each decision was taken hastily He will certainly not a good impact.If all time out the problem in your marriage chosen to be, occupied oh please. Not only twice, you may experience repeatedly marriage. In fact, marriage not like clothes that could be taken by you and with him has changed again as you wish.

There was the question that must be thought before you decided to be separated, including the possibility of repeating the same mistake will be greater. The example, the problem between you and the couple has been communication difference. You feel your poor communication with him. That's why you have chosen to be the exception and look for the person that the communication could be connected with you.

The problem is, according to Adriana, its tendency to women interested in the same type of man. The great possibility of its new couple would be a type with the length couple. It is not impossible that the same problem also occur again. And if not be put in order, this problem will continue to occur.

This not to mention the problem of the child. The child feels the child has not received attention, in conflict with ex-husband because the child case. It was following that you are going to face the new problem.When marry again. Whoever has become victims? Again and again the child.

Brighter Futures that what should be done when the marriage has seen the problem in order to divorce will not happen? Adriana gave along measures.

-- Overcoming together.

Do not consider the marriage will be sterile problem. It is good to him before marrying you prepared in case the problem was available. However, it was important to overcome a whole. If after the incompatibility and difference, straighten together. To carry out the communication. In addition, the difference will not even make relations more rich.

-- Get this.

If the communication was not successful, received only one weakness that you have received the way it is.

-- Tolerance.

Not only important communication, but also its tolerance must be tight. Tolerance is here you can accept the issues of negative effects on the couple itself. Directed there are questions to himself that you have received and what could you Unlike become better.

-- Flexibility.

In a marriage, there was no settlement is dead. The example in the agreement before marrying, which was assigned to organize the financing was you. But on the road because one or other of which are no longer permitted provided that the regulation should be changed. So you must be able to receive. I state in line with your marriage. So, as you and the marriage has increased at the same time.

-- Your time.

Put a little time to handle the questions that you and the couple wanted. Create romance. This need to maintain your privacy. If your communication and it was more unhealthy, often quarrelled, carried out this activity without talking. The example has watched the film while taking his hands or embraced. From there, it could create the proximity of emotions. If the state could be created, runs the marriage could not occur.