HELP... We Need Counsellor

Many who heard about this profession to advise the marriage, but perhaps a little knew that if his task. The marriage was clear adviser responsible for relations between husband and wife, especially when the problem occurs. Initially, an adviser to do the evaluation and analysis of the problem, found the source of the problem, looked for a solution considering the ability of individuals who are related, considering the support that perhaps has been received by them, whether family and ended up with society and the state of their finances. Thus, an adviser to give suggestions he felt were balanced for all sides.

CHOOSING THE ADVISER

How to choose exactly the marriage counsellor? Choose the councillor who has at least formal education in the field of marriage. Dr. Monty P. Satiadarma, Ms. / AT, MCP / MFCC, a marriage counsellor said, "there is not wrongly asked about the background" of education advisers. "At least, the ones who have chosen education followed by the university and that accreditation has not been requested by mistake on the cases of marriage were treated by them. The potential client has the right to request information on accreditation on the part of advisers. If necessary, whether they had permission that the practice could cross-check by the association for organising the profession such as the American Association psychology. Sometimes, the problem of the marriage can not be free from religious belief.

For example, the wife or husband dishonest, where in some way religious teachings has been banned. During his problem, marriage counsellor often as it was called with the intention to complete the integration of marriage and religion by the religious organization.

As to whether the adviser was better than the same sex or disagree with nature, Monty said that everything depends on the convenience of the service user. Monty said only: "If same-sex partners the possibility grand received the viewpoint that was the same sex who was the same, although this was not guaranteed, because basically an adviser must take objective measurements and n was not based on the difference between the sexes. "

No instant medicine

Considering the solution was for the better with the help of adviser marriage should be appreciated. As in the case of an arbitrator who has been apart from the field, the adviser may give its solution with the clear because he was not directly involved in the "field". However, as in the case of each process of "recovery", there was not even a therapy methods that can guarantee. Despite this problem in the consultations of marriage.

"It was dishonest, could certainly not be borne not yet dishonest."

This is more important is that his concern was for the better. Returned again, respectively, on the side married gasoline so that each conflict could minimalized respectively when the side wanted to return the value of commitment.it was again important, the session of the council will be effective when the couple was also invited to join as well as. For example, "all" so that the side respectively knew what must be righted. When they are postponed, the risk of dissension appropriate happened.